Betty

By Bill Craig
Betty passed away Monday afternoon.

Her heart stopped and the nurses and docs did CPR and got her back, but after that, she no longer "assisted" the ventilator, and she just wasn't "there" anymore, so decisions had to be made.

Because I am an "in-law", I decided that this was a time for me to "step back", as it were, and let the family handle things from here on out, so I am sitting here by myself "talking" to you.

Wayne (Betty's husband) is going to need someone to be his best buddy, and even though I have been away from the family for 24 years, I will step into that role if he'll have me, and do that.

It's gonna mean I will have to learn how to fish and pilot a motor boat, but I will do that for him (and for myself!) and be there for him.

One more final word: This is a REALITY blog, remember?

That means I am giving you a "glimpse" into my life just as it is at any given moment in time.

In the next few months, days, whatever..... I'll be taking the "net" out from under my "high-wire", and offer some "doors" to you that you may not want to open.

Nothing illegal, I promise, okay?

Just some things that happened of which I'm not too proud.

Right now it's all about Betty, and her sweet way.



In memory of Betty and their cat "Sassy" don't forget to click, please?

The Animal Rescue Site



Thanks

Bill

Comments

Sue said…
So very sorry to hear that Betty passed away. My sincere condolences to you and her family.I know you'll be there for all of them and they are very lucky to have you. Take care.
August 12, 2009 at 6:46 AM
Anonymous said…
Hi B&D,

Just stopping by to say I'm thinking about you and your family.

I found this video in my files and it is an oldie but goodie.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRoDVxuFFRs&NR=1

Don't know if this one quite fits the bill, but it is very soothing to listen to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMN4NBy-gU4&feature=fvw

I'm quite curious as to what your big reveal is going to be, but for now things will be busy with your family affairs.

Take care of you and your family as best I know you will.

Becks
August 13, 2009 at 2:45 AM
Anonymous said…
Hi DAB, don't know why, but something keeps bringing me back to this song.

I know I posted a link to the music video to this above, but I found this one and it is so beautiful, and the music and words strike a spot.

So here is another link to it and the lyrics.

My life is also an emotional wreck right now. So many good things we have to lose and give up. Looking for a peace at the end of the line.

I hope you are making it OK through the tuff stuff.

Take care, Becks

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MuAGBvWX2uQ&feature=related

Here I come to find myself,
catch the tide
Looking for a peace at the end
of the line.
Sometimes I can't help myself,
fever's high
I'm all at sea and so unwise.

I'm so afraid I'll lose your love
as times goes by
But courage is a fire and a
beacon so bright.
The sunset built a memory,
our love sign
And all at sea we come alive.

Will I wash away, turning like a
stone?
I need a place where I belong,
Call a setting sun, to throw
me down a rope
And take me to a place called
home.

I close my eyes, I know you're
there, love of mine
Standing on the shore in a
world I design.
The sunset fires a lonely flare
into the sky
And all at sea we say good
bye.

Will I wash away, turning like a stone?
I need a place where I belong.
Call a setting sun, to throw
me down a rope
And take me to a place called
home.
Looking for a place called
home.
August 13, 2009 at 4:46 PM
Bill Craig said…
Thnks to both of you for your thoughts and caring messages!

The funeral was today, and as you might guess we've all been "through the wringer" emotionally.

Wayne has his three daughters with him at home, and we all thought this might be a good time to give them all some "space".

Some very nice eulogies were given, many nice things remembered, about this lovely lady, and to wrap this all up, I'm going to share some personal encounters I have had with her, and stay tuned for that "spiritual telling" of something that happened which was so wonderful, it made us realize she is still "with us".

A year ago, you would have known me as a very arrogant person, who didn't care much about anything but his patients and the person who was in my life at that time (NOT D.).

Funny what a little brush with one's own mortality can accomplish.

Thanks once again, Sue, Becks, Margaret, John, and everyone who visits this blog.

Becks, I'll get to those tunes in little while and comment. I need some "quiet time" right now. Sorry that YOU'RE having a rough time of it right now as well., but we'll get through it!

Thanks

Bill
August 13, 2009 at 7:03 PM
Bill Craig said…
Dear Becks,

Well my curiosity got the best of me and I just had to follow those two links - songs I had never heard before in my life.

Needless to say, I cried along with everyone else as that elderly gentleman recited the poem "Beyond The Sunset - If You Should Go First", and since it is available for embedding, I's going into the next blog entry.

"Home" I found VERY soothing and relaxing, as you indicated I would.

Thank you for both: You just seem to have a knack for making a song fit a certain situation, and D & I are very grateful for that.

Bill
August 13, 2009 at 7:22 PM
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